The Truth About Following Your Dreams
The truth is that most people give up on their dreams. They’ve lost motivation, they don’t believe in their own personal development or self-improvement, and that’s because personal growth is hard work and life is already hard for most people.
Counting the costs of following your dreams
Following your dreams takes a lot of courage, self-direction, self-discipline, and self-knowledge. It means you have to do a lot of inner work and self-development in order to pursue the dream that has captured your imagination.
The reason you have to do a lot of personal development in order to follow your dreams is because your dreams are a representation of the fulfillment of your unique potential. No one else is quite like you and no one else has the specific dreams that you have. And if your dreams are not specific and unique to yourself, then they are probably not your dreams, rather, they may be someone else’s propaganda.
Herein lies the war over your dreams, between your understanding of who you are and the dreams you have for your life, versus the understanding that other people have of who you are and their opinion of what you should do for your life.
This battle is where most people stop following their dreams because they haven’t strengthened their own identity through doing that inner work and developing true clarity of who they really are and who they want to become. So when someone else tells them what they should do with their life, they are easily influenced and persuaded to give up on their dreams.
Following your dreams vs making money
For others, it’s not because someone else has influenced them directly, but it is the fear of not having enough money that kills their dreams. They allow money to determine their status in life, and they have developed their life around one thing only, to preserve their money and maintain their status in society.
They might even do a job that is a complete mismatch to who they are as a person, working at something they don’t enjoy, only to survive, or worse, to try to look good while they feel bad inside. No matter how wealthy they are, or how great their job title sounds, this is not an example of a successful life.
This idea is summed up by the following Bob Dylan quote:
So you have full permission to be who you want to be, to follow your dreams, and to make something of yourself that no one else expected.
By Jared Chan
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I want to talk about giving up because a lot of people do give up. They give up on their dreams first. But a lot of people also give up on themselves and they think they are not able to achieve what they really want to achieve and they feel confused and overwhelmed.
And you know I’ve felt like that before but now I feel more focused than I ever have in my life. I feel like everything is in place because I’ve done that deep work in myself to understand where I want to be, who I am, and what I want to do, and I’m doing it.
What’s that quote, I can’t remember who said it, I think it’s Bob Dylan actually, Bob Dylan said it. Success is doing what you want to do throughout the day, or something like that, I think you know, before you go to bed. I can’t remember the exact quote, but it’s you know, if you can do what you want to do throughout the day before you go to sleep, when you wake and go to sleep then, in between when you wake and go to sleep then that’s success you know. I do feel lots of gratification in that.
But a lot of people don’t believe in themselves. They’ve lost their dreams. They’ve lost their hopes. And I think a lot of that is because life is hard, it’s difficult, and it’s extremely complex. It just hits you.
You know, you’re in school for so many years, and while you’re in school you are in this environment where you don’t have to think about all of the responsibilities in your life. And then you might go to university and you’re still sheltered a little bit by some responsibilities in life. But then you’re getting out into the real world. I even hate that saying, “the real world.” Well you’re always in the real world and you might be dealing with some crazy stuff at home and you might have to work and struggle throughout university as well, so you’re always in the real world.
But when the comfort of an institution that protects you from all the realities of life. Like you know, like I said if you are at school you don’t have to deal with having to pay your bills and all that because your parents do it for you. Or if you’re still at home at least you’ve got the surrounding help of those people you live with.
But without that, when you get stripped bare you just get pummelled by life and throughout that, you start to question yourself. Your abilities, your identity, and what you’ve got to do in your life. And who you like, who likes you, and what’s going on and it’s all confusing right?
And life gets hurtful. And I think people then give up on their dreams. They give up on what they think they can do in their life and I want to say don’t give up, keep pressing forward, keep trying to understand who you are. And when I say that I mean have clarity about really how you tick, how you function as a human being psychologically, and even physically. Because you know your physiology affects your mind as well, it affects your feelings, your emotions, it’s all connected.
And once you begin to just accept that life is hard, life is difficult, and hey I’m okay. Everyone goes through all this crazy shit. I just have to keep going, keep moving, in the direction that I feel aligns with who I am the most. So the most authentic direction you could say. You could say that that’s following your truth. And I’d say that that’s the best thing to do and that’s your best bet because each day you’re doing the things that you want to do.
And it might not be perfect. You might have to do things you don’t want to do. In fact, you have to do things you don’t want to do. But the more that you can slowly move towards doing things that you want to do more and more every day the more successful you are in your life because that’s what you want to do right?
And that doesn’t mean you need lots of money. I mean money can help to do that. But you be strategic about it. You pick and choose how to design your lifestyle so you can do what you really want to do. And look, if you want to become a writer, start right now, you can do that.
I know this guy from school that I use to go to school with. I think he really wants to do film but he still works doing manual labor, and that’s fine, he needs to work, pay his bills, do whatever, he’s got a girlfriend and all that right. But you know, a lot of his time is not spent doing the things that he always talks about, he’s a creative person, he needs to be more creative. And I think part of that is because, like I said, life hit him hard. Relationship issues, different things like that, hit him really hard, and you know he’s got anger issues and stuff like that. I mean he’s dealt with some of that.
The thing is, is that, if you want to be creative, you have to be that, otherwise you’re not going to be happy. And the thing is, you’re going to die, and everyone else who is telling you to do all these other things is going to die anyway. So you might as well do what you want to do and not give up on your dreams.
And you might think, why is he saying oh you know they’re going to die, that’s a bit stupid. Well no, it’s not stupid because it’s the reality. If we are going to die… and someone is telling you, you’ve got to go to work you’ve got to be a laborer. But you’re a really creative person who wants to paint and create videos, I mean I’m not talking about myself, this is this guy I know from school. You’ve got to go do that.
You know I’ve had a similar story too. People tell me to do different things. But I’m so out there, I’m so different, they already know I’m different, I’m going to argue against them. But that’s the thing, you don’t need to conform to what other people think that your dreams and hopes should be for your life. You’ve got dreams, you’ve got hopes.
And people say, it’s so cliche, follow your dreams. Well yeah, it is a bit cliche, and it’s not as simple as follow your dreams. It’s understand who you are, how you function psychologically, what you favor, the tasks you are good at, and what type of tasks make you feel like you are alive.
When I write for example, or when I speak, or when I learn things, I feel alive. Not everyone feels that way when they do those particular tasks, but I do. I feel like so good when I’m reading a complex idea and I understand it and I can just sit there and think about that idea and how it works in the world. I feel extremely good when I’m doing that. And I feel extremely good right now when I’m speaking to you. I feel extremely good when I’m crafting a new blog post. When I formulate all the words and the words come together in the right way and I’m like yes, that feels good.
Now, does it always feel good? No. Sometimes I feel bored when I have to edit some of my blog posts, or when I have to set up all my equipment to film this stuff, or you know sometimes I can’t be bothered reading but I still want to get the ideas. So you know there’s still the reality that things get tiring.
But those three things that I listed are things that I love and not everyone loves those things though. People would hate doing this job. People would hate reading all those things that I’ve read. But I don’t. But those same people who hate that love something else, they might love sport or something else.
You have to do those things because otherwise what’s is life? What is life? Don’t give up on your dreams that’s what this whole video is. Don’t give up on your dreams. Be who you really want to be but be smart about it, don’t just quit your job straight away, I mean think about what you’re going to do. It might be an advantage that you have that job for now so you can get to where you want to go. Be strategic about it but at the end of the day you have to move towards doing what you want to do and that is living your dreams.
I am living my dreams. I might not be where I want to be. I want more money than I have now. I want more success than I have now. I want to create more things than I’ve created. But as I’m doing the things that I love to do I am living my dreams and you can do that right now.
Pick up that piece of paper, pick up that book, start that course, start that business, make those clothes. Whatever your dream is you’ve got to start right now. And you’ve got to have the balls to move towards in that direction. You’ve got to have the balls to press up against other people and say, you know what this is what I enjoy this is what I like doing and this is who I am, it’s a part of my personality, I’m better at this than other things so why would I go do those other things?
And that’s exactly it. So you’ve got to be who you want to be and you’ve got to hold onto your dreams because other people will want to take those dreams from you. It’s a tough battle. Hold onto your dreams, hold onto what you want to do, and a lot of that is having the clarity, knowing who you are, having that confidence that you can go out and do that.
So I just want to encourage you. Keep doing it. Keep living your dreams. Leave a comment below if you want to talk about any of this stuff. Ask any questions, I’m happy to talk with you guys. I’ll see you in the next video if you want to read any more of my stuff you can go to my blog at livingthewiselife.com and I’ll see you in the next video.
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