The Secret To Becoming A Highly Valuable Person
What’s the secret to becoming highly valuable? As we consider the contribution we are able to make to the world, as well as our place in the world, we can often ask ourselves questions about the value we provide.
In this video, I offer some brief answers to further our line of questioning around our core nature and the value we provide the world. This includes our gifts, strengths, and skills, as well as considerations of our placement of operation within the world.
This video is not meant to be an all-inclusive answer, rather, a constructive dialog of reasoning, argumentation, and questioning that leads us to further contemplate how we can increase our personal value, find our function in society, and reach self-actualization.
By Jared Chan
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Hello, in this video I’m going to be talking about the secret to becoming a highly valuable person. This is part 2 and part 1 was 3 secrets to unlocking your potential. So if you haven’t watched part 1 yet go back to part 1 and watch that. That video is about potential and in this video we’re going to be talking about your gift, your strengths, and your skills and how they all work together. So let’s get into it.
The secret to becoming a highly valuable person is to discover your gift. It’s to discover your gift and then to give your gift to the world. When you discover your gift then you become a highly valuable person.
Now, what is a gift? A gift is something that you are naturally good at. Whether it be God or nature you didn’t have a choice you were given this gift, you were given this ability to be good at something, you are good at something and you didn’t have to do anything to be good at that.
It varies for different people. Everyone has different types of gifts. You might have just one primary thing that you do. You might have a group of different things that you do.
For example, one of my gifts would be to be able to think creatively. To think of creative ideas. Now, can everyone think of creative ideas? Sure they can but it comes more natural to me to think up of different ideas, and lots of them, and strange ideas, and uncommon ideas, and ideas that synthesize many ideas together. So that’s a gift.
But I’m also good at naturally expressing myself using words, so I’m good at speaking, I’m also good at writing because I’m good at meditating on those words and then crafting the right sentence to convey the meaning and message that I want to give to other people. So that comes natural to me. I didn’t try to do that. I just noticed at university, ‘Hey! I’m actually getting HD’s, high distinctions, for all my written assignments so there must be something to that right?’
They’re examples of gifts, I didn’t really have to work to be good at those things. Some people are good at using their hands and they are really good at tinkering with mechanics. They can just do that, I’m not very good at that, I suck at that. I don’t know really anything about cars. You know, but I’m not really ashamed about that because they know nothing about the things I know about. And that’s the beauty of gifts is that we are all different, we all have different gifts.
Some people are good at empathizing with other people. They’re good at really connecting with them and making other people feel comfortable around them. That is a gift. You know, it’s not like they sat around thinking, ‘Hey! How can I make other people feel more comfortable?’ No, they just naturally make other people feel comfortable around them.
And I can hear people saying, ‘I don’t know what my gift is, what do you mean gift?’ Well, don’t fret about it. You don’t have to rack your mind about it too much. It should come naturally to you. You should already know what your gifts are. But look if you don’t I’ll help you out. What you do is you look through your life and you find what are the persistent things that are consistent in my life that I find that I’m actually really good at. Look through all the different areas of your life, what were you actually good at? Try to nail it down to something.
But look if you don’t I’ll help you out. What you do is you look through your life and you find what are the persistent things that are consistent in my life that I find that I’m actually really good at. Look through all the different areas of your life, what were you actually good at? Try to nail it down to something.
And if you can’t think of that yourself then think about what other people have consistently said that you were good at. Over and over again in different situations. So you know it’s not just a bias of your mum who says, ‘Yeah, you’re good at this honey.’ No, maybe your mum said something, but then maybe you went and saw a coach and they said you were really good at something, but also your friend said something similar but they didn’t know that each other said that. So it’s the validation of the objective world and you get the opinions of other people.
Now, you’ve got to be careful there, you don’t just define yourself by what other people think of you. But you can find validation through just tying together all the similar things that people have said about you. You can get a picture of what you are good at in your life.
So I hope that helps there. So that’s gifts right. Your gift. Your gift is going to make you so valuable to people because people want what you have, what you can give them.
So if you’re naturally good at something and you can identify what you’re naturally good at and you can articulate it. You’re already ahead of most people. Because most people don’t think about these things for some reason. Either they don’t believe they have a gift, or they believe they can’t do anything, or they believe they can do whatever they like. In other words, they think they can ignore biology. They think they can ignore who they naturally are. Or they don’t believe in themselves enough and they aren’t putting confidence in who they naturally are.
I said that against people who are going to say, ‘Oh, gifts aren’t real.’ It’s like okay, so are there things you are not good at? Are there things you are good at? Are you better at those things than other people, those things you are good at? Well, we can call that a gift because you didn’t really choose to have that. You know what I mean? Okay, so let’s move on from that.
Let’s introduce another concept here called strengths. What is a strength? A strength is something that makes you feel strong inside when you do it. So for me when I’m writing something, or even when I’m speaking and it’s flowing out naturally like this, I feel really strong. I feel so strong when I do this. I feel very strong when I write a sentence and I can just feel it in me, I’m like, ‘Wow, that’s a powerful sentence that I’ve just written.’ I feel the strength and power in that sentence.
Okay, so for example, there’s a weakness. You know, what’s a weakness? It’s good to understand what a strength is by understanding what a weakness is. So a weakness is when you feel really weak during, before, or after you do something. So for me, that would be paperwork, I hate paperwork. And you might think ‘Oh, everyone hates paperwork.’ Okay, well, I really hate paperwork. I hate it so much. I fill it out, I hate it as I’m filling it out, and even when I’m finished it I’m paranoid, I look at it, I check it. I don’t like it, it makes me feel bad, it’s not something that really fills me full of strength. But other people they feel good, they check it all off, ‘yep, done this, done this. Oh, I feel good… it’s so orderly and structured.’
So for me, that would be paperwork, I hate paperwork. And you might think ‘Oh, everyone hates paperwork.’ Okay, well, I really hate paperwork. I hate it so much. I fill it out, I hate it as I’m filling it out, and even when I’m finished it I’m paranoid, I look at it, I check it. I don’t like it, it makes me feel bad, it’s not something that really fills me full of strength. But other people they feel good, they check it all off, ‘yep, done this, done this. Oh, I feel good… it’s so orderly and structured.’ No, I don’t like that, I hate that. But other people like that, you know secretaries, people like that, people who like filing stuff, I don’t know there are people out there who do like that stuff. So that’s a strength, right?
So there’s the gift, what you’re naturally good at that you didn’t have to work for. There’s the strength, what you naturally like doing and that makes you feel strong. And then there’s the third concept to top it all off is your skills.
What are skills? Skills are things that you can do. Yeah, they’re things you can do. And they are normally very specific. So they’re things you can do, they’re specific, and you can grow them. So you didn’t gain your skills naturally. You have to work to be skilled.
Here it is, you identify your gift that makes you valuable to other people because not everyone has the same gift as you. You find an area of endeavor that you feel strong in, that’s your strengths, where you can use your gift in. So you line them up, you align your gift with your strengths, with your strength area and your strength zone. And then you build skill around it.
You build skills. You go and learn how to make your gifts and strengths better. You augment them by learning. You augment them by understanding how to do those things better. How to improve yourself in those areas. So maybe you’re naturally gifted at a level 8 at something. Maybe you’re a level 8 at writing and then your strength is you feeling powerful once you finish a blog post. Maybe you’re not good at writing poetry, you don’t really care much for poetry, but you feel strong after you write a blog post. Then you go and learn skills about how to write blog posts better.
That’s just an example, but you have to fill in that example with your life, with who you are. Tailor make what I’m saying for yourself. And I’m telling you, you align those three things you’ll be a highly valuable person. You’ll be highly valuable to other people. They will come to you because you have this ability to give them something that they can’t get anywhere else.
So grab all those principles. Work with it. Write it down. It won’t take that long. And you’ll be able to really work at it and really become that valuable person and you know what? People pay for value man, they pay for value, people respect someone who is valuable. And that’s who you want to become in life, you want to be valuable. And you know what? You become so valuable.
And you know what? You become so valuable. It means that you can help other people because you can give them the value that you have. You have an ability to help other people. Everything that’s valuable helps someone else, that’s why it’s valuable.
So that’s all I really wanted to talk about today. Thank you for listening and if you have any other questions leave a comment in the comment section. If you like this video please leave a like and if you want to hear more from me than please subscribe. I’ll see you in the next video and just so you know if you’ve heard some crazy noises it’s just because there’s all different birds around here crying out. So I thought I’d just let you guys know that. Have a good day.
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